Being a parent is not an easy role. If you are a parent, then you should know this by now. It becomes even more of a burden when you realize what is at stake. What is at stake is the future of your children. If you make a mess out of your parenting then your children will be the ones to suffer. They will be unprepared for what life has to offer. They will be unable to handle the pressure that life presents, so they might just give up right away without trying to push their boundaries.
Mistakes in Parenting
All parents make mistakes. There would be no exception to that. Even the ones whom we consider to be successful when it comes to raising their children are guilty of committing a mistake or two when it comes to parenting. So don’t feel too pressured when you think that being a parent leaves no room for mistakes. It is okay to make mistakes as a parent, but it is important that you should learn from those mistakes, so that in the future you would not be making them anymore.
As a parent, what you should try to stay away from is a situation where you keep on making the same mistakes. That would mean that you are not learning and that you are not making any progress at all when it comes to your parenting.
It would benefit you to know the most common mistakes made by other parents. When you know about these mistakes, you can take steps, so you won’t be making them in your turn. We have listed here some of the more common parenting mistakes that people make.
Worshipping Their Kids
Parents love their kids. That’s a normal thing and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. But you should not make the mistake of worshipping them. Others would call this spoiling the kids, but it goes much deeper than that. Worshipping comes when we want to do everything so that the child is happy all the time, no matter what. It is okay to want your child to be happy always, but what if that happiness would only be the result of certain negative things?
It is not okay for you to give in to all of your child’s demands. It is not okay to back them up and support them even if they have done something wrong. Some parents lose sight of the fact that their children can commit some wrongdoing. Don’t be that way.
Believing That Their Children Are Perfect
This mistake is connected with the first one. When parents worship their children, they start to think of them as perfect and are incapable of any wrongdoing. When parents take on that sort of mind set, that can be very dangerous. They would be instantly hostile to anyone who tells them that their children has some flaws and their minds would be shut closed for any suggestion on how their children can be helped.
It is important that you should accept the fact that your children are not perfect. When you do so, it would make it easier if you have to do something in order to correct the problems that they are having.
Living Through Their Kids
We often hear parents saying that they want their children to have the best in life. They want them to have the chances that they did not get. That’s a good thing, but the problem starts when we see our children as nothing more than just our extensions. You want them to do certain things that you would have wanted for yourself. That’s’ no longer about their happiness, but yours. If you want them to be truly happy, then you would want your children to have their own lives and not just an extension of yours.
Trying to Be the Best Friend of Your Children
Another mistake that many parents make is they try to be the best friend of their children. Many parents want this because of what they see on the TV and the movies. They want to become one of those cool parents who can be pals with their kids and hangout with them. But that rarely happens in real life and it does not have the best of results. Parents who are like that are those who are very permissive and while that might work for certain families, for others it’s not a good idea.
You are a parent and nothing would change that. You do not have to compete with your children’s friends.
Being an Overly Competitive Parent
All parents are competitive by nature. You want your children to be the best in everything and you don’t like it when another child does better than your kids. But you have to be on the lookout, so you don’t end up being an overly competitive parent. When you are an overly competitive parent, you will start pushing your children so that they would excel. While there is nothing bad about your children excelling in school and in other things, it becomes negative when you start pushing them too hard. You might put too much pressure on your kids.
Having Too Many Expectations
Some parents make the mistake of setting too many expectations on their kids. This places too much pressure on the children. These are parents who have definite ideas on how they want their kids to be. Because of those definite ideas they forget to take a look at the children. They ignore the behaviour of their kids. Because they have sure ideas on how they want their kids to turn out, they forget that their kids might have other ideas. Don’t be like that. Don’t ignore who your kid is in exchange for the ideal kid you have in mind.
Not Practicing What They Preach
As a parent you have a tremendous amount of responsibility. You need to guide your children to do the right thing always. Do not make the same mistake that others make, when they say one thing and practice another. There are those parents who are guilty of this. They are careless about their actions. They might forbid their children to do certain things and yet do the exact same thing in front of them. Just think of the message that the children will get from that.
Judging Other Parents
People are so judgemental these days. If they see something that does not agree with their views, they condemn that and judge it to be wrong. But you should refrain from doing that. No one is in a position to judge other parents. If another person’s parenting style is not the same as ours, then we don’t have any reason to judge that person. That’s their business. Instead of criticizing other people you should focus on raising your children in the right way.
Raising children is not easy. There are so many mistakes that you can make. You should make your life a bit simpler by avoiding the mistakes that we have enumerated here so you do yourself and your kids a great deal of favour.